Say Yes to Yourself first
It's allowed. and encouraged.
When people-pleasing is no longer sustainable,
let's learn the skills to take care of ourselves, and become confident being honest
Trauma-Informed Life Coaching
If you’re here, you likely feel that the 'Yes' that once kept you safe and successful is now costing you too much.
Maybe your body is tired of the constant scanning—watching for shifts in moods or trying to guess unwritten rules just to play the right part.
Whether at work or home, the pressure to be 'reliable' has become a mask you can't take off.
It doesn't have to stay this way. You aren't 'broken' for struggling to say no; you are simply using a survival blueprint that has served its purpose. Now, we build a new one.
In this space, we don't do 'performance.' Whether you need to fidget, turn your camera off, or take your time finding words, you are welcome.
We move past the 'Shoulds' and into a quiet confidence that comes from owning your truth.
You don't need to apologize for having needs. You just need the tools to express them.
Hi, I'm Valeria.
I am a certified trauma-informed life coach and a recovering people-pleaser myself. I got your back.
By working together, I want to help you:
- get to know what it means to be you outside of external expectations
- increase awareness and practice skills to help you exercise your own decisions and boundaries
- find ways to act and express yourself in alignment with your personal values
- ultimately, become confident in communicating to the world both your needs and desires in a way that feels easy, natural and safe
You deserve to live a life that feels genuinely and fully yours. Let's make that happen
What do I offer?
Permission To Bo Me project
A 3-Month Coaching Framework to go from performing for approval to leading from your own truth.
While learning to say "no" is undeniably crucial (and we will do this too), this journey sets to achieve an even higher goal. We will lean into discovering your own ways of being authentic and grounding the permission to exist on your own terms deep within you.
I will support you on this journey of building your self trust and learning how to lead from inner truth in situations where you would previously be looking for approval or validation from others.
How will it look like?
Permission To Bo Me project consists of 6 x 45-minute sessions, held via online video or audio call bi-weekly over the three months.
The focus of the sessions follows the ANCHOR method:
- A - Alignment
- Acknowledging your current people-pleasing patterns and aligning on what true ownership means to you.
- N - Notice
- Developing the skill of interoception. Learning to recognise the physical signs of freeze/fawn response or resentment.
- C- Clarity
- Deep dive into your values and authenticity. Determining what you actually want, once the external expectations drop.
- H - Honest expression
- Finding a way of speaking that is direct, kind, and yours that doesn't require you to apologize for having needs.
- O - Ownership
- Taking the brave step into action. Making your first "self-first" choices in the real world with professional coaching support
- R - Resilience
- Integrating these changes into your daily life. Building the sustainable habits that protect your energy and prevent a slide back into burnout.
NB!
During each session we will adjust the theme towards your current needs. It may happen that we skip over some steps, others we might spend more time on, or come back to several times. The structure is defined by your personal process, not the rigid plan made ahead.
In addition to the video call sessions, you will have access to:
- Quick-Shift alignment calls (10-15 min) If you have a difficult meeting coming up or just received a triggering request, you can call me for a quick reset. We jump on, regulate your nervous system, and decide on the course of action.
- Live Co-Replying sessions About 10 minutes of working together to find Your words to answer that email or text you've been avoiding.
- Session summary I'll share with you notes on the key insights and the next steps, so you don't have to take time during the session to write them down yourself.
Your Investment
Permission To Bo Me project
Includes 6 coaching sessions, optional alignment calls and live co-replying sessions
I believe in the transformational power of this course. If at at the end of this programme you decide it did not provide any support, I will give you a full refund for the attended sessions.
Individual coaching session outside of the programme
Whether you have a specific, immediate choice to navigate, want to test the waters before committing to a full journey, or simply prefer the freedom of booking one session at a time.
My Approach
While many growth strategies focus on willpower and 'doing more', I believe that when your nervous system is in a freeze or fawn response, simply trying harder isn't the answer.
My approach is trauma-informed and nervous-system aware. This means we don't ignore the underlying anxiety or the masking and roles you've had to play — we work with them.
We focus on sustainable progress. We move at a pace that respects your current energy levels, emotional capacity, and the reality of your daily life.
As a certified trauma-informed coach (ICF-accredited programme), I provide the safe space you need so that your brain can actually learn to make new, brave choices.
You don't have to fix your personality. You just need a space where you can finally stop performing and start listening to yourself.
If you have any questions about the Permission To Bo Me project, or my coaching practice - feel free to book a free discovery session or contact me via email